This past December brought great excitement to our family as our oldest son Blake proposed to a precious young lady, Christina. One of the greatest desires as a parent is that your adult child will find the “right” person to marry—a person that loves the Lord, that adores your child and that makes your child a better person. Christina is that one. She and Blake have so much fun together, and she is a great encourager of his. I have watched him grow in many ways since this relationship began, and it just makes a mother smile and feel so grateful that he has found the “right” one.
This past week Christina and her parents visited Charleston, her future home. Christina brought along a “man” for Hope. He was another life-size cardboard man (you know, the kind that I like)—Liam from One Direction. Now Hope will have 5 men in her room at Clemson.
Liam came to Charleston on a mission. He asked Hope to be a bridesmaid in Christina and Blake’s wedding. And Hope was thrilled—she has been secretly hoping that Christina would ask her. She, of course, accepted Liam’s invitation and just kept saying, “I finally have a sister.”
Hope and I accompanied Christina and her mom, Diane, to a couple of bridal salons in the Charleston area. It was very exciting to see my future daughter-in-law emerge from the dressing room in gorgeous gowns. She looked exquisite in all of them. I could see a sparkle in Hope’s eyes as she watched Christina. I knew what she was thinking…“I hope I get to be a bride one day.” A dream of most young ladies is to dress like a princess for a day, marry their Prince Charming and live happily ever after. At one of the salons, Hope was invited to dress like that princess and put on a wedding gown. She absolutely lit up at this opportunity. And she looked beautiful in her princess dress adorned with a lot of bling. The final touch, which completed her look, was the tiara and elegant veil that were placed upon her head. Hope enjoyed her glamour moment and did say a couple of times, “I don’t know if I’ll ever find the ‘right’ one.” Diane kept telling Hope that God has the perfect person picked out for her—one that will love her, respect her and treat her like the princess that she is. I want Hope to believe that. I want her to know her true identity in Christ—how God really sees her. Don’t we want that for all of our daughters? Don’t we, as women, need to believe that too? We are daughters of the King! Our true identity is in Him.
I want Hope to know God created her on purpose. She is unique.
“For you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful , I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth, your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written on your book before one of them came to be.” Psalm 139:13-16
It’s Holy week….this season of Lent, we have been reflecting on the immensity of the love that God has for us and what that love cost. Isn’t it amazing that we have the love of a Father who created the universe? The love of a Father who sacrificed His only son because He loved us so much? The love of a Father who pursues us daily because He desires a close relationship with Him?
Let’s remind ourselves and our children who we really are—what our identity truly is. We are “a member of a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people for God’s own possession and created to sing His praises.” 1Peter 2:9-10