One morning this summer, as I was preparing to leave the house for an appointment, Hope came in my room dressed in her workout clothes. Her normal routine in the summertime has been to wake up, eat breakfast, work out at 9 Rounds, shower, eat lunch and ride her bike to work. Hope likes her routine! Today, I was breaking the routine and had failed to inform her. When I explained to her that she would have to exercise after work because I couldn’t take her in the morning, she seemed a bit frustrated with me and walked out of the room. About 15 minutes later, she appeared in my bathroom doorway and said, “You know how you’re always supposed to have a backup plan?” I said, “Yes,” not knowing where this was going. “Well,” she continued, “I called Hannah, and she said that she could take me to 9 Rounds this morning.” My initial reaction was to say, “You don’t need to bother Hannah. I’m sure she is so busy.” Thank goodness, that holy duct tape planted itself on my mouth! A bit later I said, “Hope that’s wonderful! I am proud of you for taking the initiative and figuring out another plan.” She replied, “Yeah, if Plan A doesn’t work, then you go to Plan B.” I almost spit out my toothpaste. Who was this wise young lady who had appeared in my doorway? I would love to know how she learned this lesson. I’m sure it was at Clemson, and I can see a certain instructor having this very conversation with her—SK? Lyndsey? I’d love to know the specific situation that preceded this discussion!
How many times do I get stuck on my Plan A and devastated when it doesn’t pan out like I desired? It happens all the time with me. Then I become paralyzed by the fact that things didn’t work out rather than moving on with Plan B. It sucks the joy right out of me. Hope gets some of her drama from me, yet she seems much more apt to get over the “what might have been” and move on to “what’s next.” She’s not stuck or defeated by what didn’t happen like I can be.
Sometimes Plan B is God’s plan, and we don’t always understand it because we are human and not perfect.
“For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are my ways your ways, declares the Lord. For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.”
I need to loosen the grip I have on my imperfect plans and be open to God’s. Focusing on Him vs. my agenda is a much better option for me. I’m thankful for God’s perfect plans and for the humor and life lessons that daughters often share with their moms.